Is Beauty Really in the Eye of the Beholder?

We often hear the phrase ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’. It effectively means that beauty is what a person thinks is beauty; if you see something as beautiful, then it is.

But could you look into the mirror and honestly tell me that there was not one thing you would change about your appearance? Are you totally happy with who you are?

However much I do not like it, my own answer would be no. If I could then I would be skinnier, have a smaller nose, a thinner face – there are many things that I would change about myself if I got the chance.

Mirrored beauty

Why do we want to change these things, though? Why do we want to be ‘prettier’, ‘skinnier’ or ‘have a smaller nose’?    Why do we actually want these things?

To answer these questions, we need to think some more about what beauty actually is. Does beauty exist if there is no one there to see it? Of course, this question is very much a matter if opinion, and is not really that different from if I asked you ‘If a tree falls in a forest with no one there, does it make a sound?’.

In my view, I think there is a definite possibility that beauty can exist if no one sees it, but if there’s no one there to see it – does it make a difference if it’s beautiful or not?

I could also apply this question to daily life, and say that someone or something is not beautiful unless it is seen by someone else to be so. This, sadly, seems to be truer than ever at the moment, or at least to me. If it weren’t, then the beauty industry would not be so successful. We wouldn’t slather ourselves in makeup everyday because ‘everyone else is doing it, so I wont look pretty without it’ [*]. Because beauty isn’t just in the eye of the beholder anymore, is it? It’s also what the beholder has been told is beautiful. If all of us were brought up to believe being skinny is ‘ugly’, then, generations later, we would probably still believe that. ‘Beautiful’ is only a word; it only means what we want it to mean, because a word is just a sound attached to a meaning. If we are constantly told we are beautiful, then we come to believe that we are. flower

Another question to ask yourself is: ‘Would you rather have a beautiful appearance or a beautiful soul?’ A beautiful personality and soul is also important, too, because this is not so much skin-deep, and we change our personalities according to the choices we make or have made.

[*] I’m not trying to say that everyone is like this, or that makeup is always a bad thing because isn’t always, and it can be a great way of expressing yourself.

So what we need to do in this day is to stand in front of a mirror, see our flaws both inside and out but then see these flaws as what makes us beautiful, and remember that perfection isn’t flawless either.

Apple xx

Touching lives

I know that title was a bit weird, but I’m not really sure how else to put it: it’s that person you smile at from in the car, or the cute baby on the train who played with you.

You know? Those people you meet or just a couple of minutes or seconds, never to meet them again? Maybe you’re out there, thinking about the girl in a green jumper, and maybe I’m thinking about you. But we’ll never know: that’s what makes those moments so special, so unique, because you’ll never meet them again.

So, hello, girl who smiled at me from the taxi this morning, and hello, baby that I met on the aeroplane.

In a way, blogging is a bit like that, too, because although us bloggers hope that you’ll keep reading our blogs and liking our posts, it might just be that one sentence that reaches into your heart – and then you click away. I’ve done it, you’ve probably done it.

I don’t know. It’s just nice to feel I have a connection with that person who I’ll never meet again, a small thought joining you with someone who could be halfway across the globe.

Hello, people whose lives I briefly touched. Hello, people whose lives I have not. Hello, everyone out there who has an understanding of what I’m talking about.

I’m here, just one of the seven billion people in the world, but I’m here and I’m thinking and living and breathing a world just as complex as yours.

And I hope that I touch someone, somewhere out there with what I have said.